Using your creative mind

An email request for help: "I have read books about asking, believing and visualizing. I’m continuously doing that. but sometimes I cant help doubting when go back to reality again. I’ve been looking for a job for 4 months now and Im still struggling. I tried following the the law of attraction but I think its not working on me. Help, I dont know where to start. Can we really control ourselves? Can we, through our thoughts, we can make things possible. All I want for now is to get a job. "

I have found that when people say that the Law of Attraction isn't working for them, its because they are spending more focus on what is NOT happening, or what they fear, rather than what they DO desire.

This is a normal habit until a new habit is created.

If you focus on what you want once a day, and then 20 times a day you focus on your fears, then what is getting the most attention will continue to be there for you.

Over the years, with my own life changing events and working with clients I have used Simple Key tools that help to clarify and re-focus.

Perhaps this Simple Key will assist you as well.

First - Write specifically WHAT you want. You must be specific.

You say you need to get a job. By focusing on “need”, you are focusing on fear. When you focus on fear, most people will settle for less than the best, or less than they deserve to have.

Start writing down what you desire in your perfect job:
How many days a week;
how many hours a day;
how far away from home;
what type of characteristics does your boss have (only good ones);
what are your duties (the ones you really enjoy);
how do you desire to feel everyday on your way to work;
how do you desire to feel every day on your way home from work;
what are the characteristics of your co-workers,
and everything about your perfect job as you desire it to be.

If you feel overwhelmed, then sit quiet for a moment and daydream. Place yourself in your daydream, three years down the road. Going this far down the road assists you in removing yourself from your fearful energy of today. See yourself as happy and fulfilled, living where you love, and working at your perfect job doing what you love. Suddenly you meet a friend you haven't seen in years, and she is excited about your life. She asks how you got this perfect job, and you tell her.

Because you are daydreaming, your logical mind (your fears and doubts) most likely will not kick in just yet. Your creative mind will answer. Whatever is the first thing you tell your friend is your answer, coming from your inner consciousness.

Once you have that - open your eyes and write down on your list what you told your friend in your daydream. Re-feel your joy from your daydream as you do this.

If the joy starts to creep away, your creative mind is being taken over by your fear, and STOP. Go outside and take a walk, exercise or something else physical and then come back and be quiet and with your list again.

Don't be concerned about exactly HOW it will happen. When you feel yourself getting fearful or doubtful again, read your list and revisit your daydream, re-feel the feelings of joy in your daydream.

When you do this you will find that your conscious mind, the time you spend in your reality, starts to notice new things, new opportunities; you start to hear things or read things you may have previously overlooked; your creative energy is in force.

I have a client who was broke and days from being evicted from her apartment. She used this tool and that afternoon when at the local market, she overheard a conversation where someone was looking for a housesitter for 6 months. She stepped into her courage, and approached the person. Within an hour she had a paying house sitting job and a new home for 6 months.

During that six months, she clarified what she really desired in her life, and using this and other Simple Key tools, she is now making more money than she ever had previously, and is living in a home at the beach.

As with any new habit, you may find this requires more effort at first, however, the more you use it the easier it becomes.

Others have what they desire in life - and you deserve yours as well.

I watched the movie ”Women” this weekend. In the movie (not spoiling the ending), the Meg Ryan character hits what she calls bottom, and finally asks herself ‘What Do I Want?”. She took out a black felt marker and wrote that question on the top of a page, and then went on to write down what she believed she wanted from the deepest recesses of herself. She went on to create a vision board.

After clarifying her wants, she took action. You have to see the movie to see how it turns out. It wasn’t without bumps in her road.

I have experienced that many people will give lip service to their wants or complain about what is not in their life. Some will write one thing or two, and when events don’t appear the way they specify, the focus on the list goes away. It is replaced with compromise or complaining or giving up.

One of my clients had a strong desire for her perfect boyfriend. She sat with me and wrote her list, starting with her 5 non-compromisable characteristics, those deal breakers. Next were listed items that were negotiable, and finishing her list with characteristics and appearances that would be nice.

Very quickly she met what she described at the perfect man. Within months they were exclusive and started living together. Almost immediately she witnessed a behavior in this man that was on her non-compromisable list. When she brought it to his attention, he told her he would change for her. Unfortunately his behavior did not change, in fact it escalated and he started telling her that she was too demanding. This woman was not willing to see how this non-compromisable item on her list was only a hope and not a commitment.

After two years of struggle, she left this man and went through a painful healing process. She pulled out her list again, and this time she was very clear about what was important to her. The short story is that she is now with a man who not only matches every characteristic on her list, he has the same non-compromisable items that she does. They are headed towards marriage, something they both desire to share with each other. She proudly tells people that she got everything on her list, with bonuses. This man brought new adventures into her life, she had not previously imagined.

I have a client who wants to expand her business with clients that fit a specific description. Every time she accepts a client “because she needs the money”, instead of focusing on clients that fit her perfect client as described on her list, she has problems. She continues to have money problems clients. Her “for the money” clients are taking the majority of her time and a few have asked for their money back.

These days I add Michael Phelps to my examples of how it works when you write it down. This year he revealed how he had a piece of paper, his intention list in his bedroom and after his remarkable wins at the Olympics in an interview with Bob Costas: “What was on that much talked about piece of paper? You wish list or your intention list?”
Phelps:” I think you saw it. It was all there, I think the only difference was the 200 fly, but other than that everything was pretty close to, pretty close to identical to what was written on the piece of paper.”

Knowing what you desire and are willing to be committed to is most important when writing this list. Being specific is critical. I hear the word “honesty” being placed on many non-compromisable lists. I always ask – what does honesty mean? Is honest defined as ALL the time, or is there a disclaimer when it comes to the IRS or telemarketers?? You must know the true definition of the words you choose to use.

What is on your list works when you place your commitment to your desires. Being conscious and taking conscious action is required. This works in all areas of life.
What type of life do you want?

What is non-compromisable in business, career, health, friends, relationships?

What is negotiable?

Write it down.